Foreword 15
- Introduction 17
- About this Book 17
- Who is How to Be Angry for? 18
- Facilitator Qualifications 20
- Creating a Positive Group Environment 20
- Using the Curriculum 21
- Feedback 22
Part I What is Anger? Exploring Anger's Impact on the Brain and Body 23
Session 1 That Makes Me So Mad! 24
- Identifying Anger Triggers
- Session Objectives 24
- Materials Needed 24
- Before Beginning 24
- Welcome to the Group 25
- Icebreaker Activity: The Joker 25
- Group Agreements 26
- Anger Defined 27
- Anger Triggers 27
- Session Conclusion 29
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 30
- Icebreaker Activity: The Joker 31
- Handout: What is Anger? 33
- Weekly Journal 35
Session 2 A Pain in the Brain 36
- What Happens in Our Brain When We Experience Anger?
- Session Objectives 36
- Materials Needed 36
- Before Beginning 36
- Welcome Back 37
- Icebreaker Activity: Journal Sharing 37
- Brain Science 101: The Hand Brain Model 38
- Labeling the Brain 40
- Which Part of the Brain is in Charge? 41
- Session Conclusion 42
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 43
- Label Your Brain 44
- Which Part of the Brain is in Charge? 46
- Weekly Journal 48
Session 3 Becoming an Anger Detective 49
- How to Recognize Anger Clues in the Body
- Session Objectives 49
- Materials Needed 49
- Before Beginning 49
- Welcome Back 50
- Icebreaker Activity: Brain Sculpting 50
- Becoming an Anger Detective 51
- Session Conclusion 53
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 53
- Anger Clues Map 54
- Anger Clues Journal 57
Session 4 Calming an Angry Brain 59
- Mindfulness and Mindful Breathing
- Session Objectives 59
- Materials Needed 59
- Before Beginning 59
- Welcome Back 60
- Icebreaker Activity: 4-7-8 Feather Breathing 60
- What is Mindfulness? 62
- Mindful Breathing 62
- Session Conclusion 63
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 64
- Mindful Breathing Beads 65
- Mindful Breathing Tracker 66
Session 5 Sensory Strategies to Calm an Angry Brain 68
- Part I: Mindful Listening and Noticing
- Session Objectives 68
- Materials Needed 68
- Before Beginning 68
- Welcome Back 69
- Icebreaker Activity: Mindful Breathing Menu 69
- Mindful Listening 70
- Mindful Noticing 71
- Bonus Activity: Mindfulness Walk 72
- Session Conclusion 73
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 73
- Weekly Journal 74
- Mindful Breathing Menu 75
- Figure 8 Breathing 76
Session 6 Sensory Strategies to Calm an Angry Brain 77
- Part II: Mindful Smelling, Tasting, and Touching
- Session Objectives 77
- Materials Needed 77
- Before Beginning 77
- Welcome Back 77
- Icebreaker Activity: The 5-Senses Grounding Technique 78
- Activity: Mindfulness Centers 79
- Session Conclusion 80
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 80
- The 5-Senses Grounding Technique 81
- Mindfulness Centers 82
- Weekly Journal 85
Part II What is Assertiveness? Identifying Choices in Anger Expression 87
Session 7 Tiger, Turtle, Fox, or Giraffe 88
- Whose Anger Style Do You Match?
- Session Objectives 88
- Materials Needed 88
- Before Beginning 88
- Welcome Back 89
- Icebreaker Activity: Mindful Breathing Practice 89
- What's My Anger Style? 89
- Anger Styles: Avery and Raya 90
- Session Conclusion 91
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 92
- Animal Anger Styles 93
- Typical Behaviors for Each Anger Style 95
- Anger Styles 97
- Weekly Journal 98
Session 8 Decisions, Decisions! 99
- Four Choices in Anger Expression
- Session Objectives 99
- Materials Needed 99
- Before Beginning 99
- Welcome Back 99
- Icebreaker Activity: Mindful Breathing Practice 100
- What's Your Style? 101
- Four Choices in Anger Expression Scenarios 101
- Session Conclusion 102
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 103
- Anger Expression Styles 104
- Four Choices in Anger Expression 105
- Four Choices in Anger Expression 106
- Weekly Journal 107
Session 9 Sugarcoated Hostility 108
- The Five Levels of Passive-Aggressive Behavior
- Session Objectives 108
- Materials Needed 108
- Before Beginning 108
- Welcome Back 108
- Icebreaker Activity: Name that Style 109
- The Five Levels of Passive-Aggressive Behavior 109
- Session Conclusion 112
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 112
- Handout: The Five Levels of Passive-Aggressive Behavior 113
- Activity: Do I Do This? The Five Levels of Passive-Aggressive Behavior 115
- Weekly Journal 119
Session 10 Behind the Mask 120
- Exploring Public Faces and Private Realities
- Session Objectives 120
- Materials Needed 120
- Before Beginning 121
- Welcome Back 121
- Icebreaker Activity: Pick and Mix 121
- Mask-Making 122
- Session Conclusion 123
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 123
- Weekly Journal 124
Session 11 More than Words Can Express 125
- How Body Language and Tone of Voice Can Say It All
- Session Objectives 125
- Materials Needed 125
- Before Beginning 125
- Welcome Back 126
- Icebreaker Activity: Birthday Order 126
- More than Words Can Express 127
- It's Not the Words You Use but the Tone You Choose 127
- Session Conclusion 128
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 129
- Activity: More than Words Can Express 130
- Handout: It's Not the Words You Use but the Tone You Choose 132
- Weekly Journal 133
Part III Developing Assertive Anger Expression Skills 135
Session 12 I Feel Angry! 136
- Using I-Messages to Express Anger Assertively
- Session Objectives 136
- Materials Needed 136
- Before Beginning 136
- Welcome Back 137
- Icebreaker Activity: I-Style 137
- I-Messages 138
- You-Messages vs. I-Messages 139
- Session Conclusion 141
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 142
- Activity: I-Style 143
- Handout: I-Messages 145
- Handout: You-Messages vs. I-Messages 147
- Handout: Sample I-Messages 150
- Weekly Journal 152
Session 13 Yes, No, or Maybe So 153
- Assertive Skills for Disagreeing Without Arguing
- Session Objectives 153
- Materials Needed 153
- Before Beginning 153
- Welcome Back 154
- Yes, No, or Maybe So 154
- Arguing vs. Disagreeing 155
- Session Conclusion 157
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 158
- Handout: Change It! 159
- Weekly Journal 161
Session 14 Four "Be" Rules 162
- Using Assertive Communication to Stand Up for Yourself and Others
- Session Objectives 162
- Materials Needed 162
- Before Beginning 162
- Welcome Back 162
- Icebreaker Activity: Two Truths and a Lie 163
- "Be" Rules for Standing Up for Ourselves and Others 163
- Putting It All Together: Role-Playing 165
- Session Conclusion 165
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 166
- "Be" Rules 167
- Role Plays for Practicing Assertive Communication 169
- Weekly Journal 173
Session 15 "May I Please" and "No Can Do" 174
- Guidelines for Assertively Making and Refusing Requests
- Session Objectives 174
- Materials Needed 174
- Before Beginning 174
- Welcome Back 175
- Icebreaker Activity: Say the Alphabet 175
- Making Requests 175
- Refusing Requests 177
- Session Conclusion 178
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 178
- Handout: May I Please-Two Simple Rules for Making Assertive Requests 180
- Activity: Write a Request 181
- Handout: No Can Do-Four Rules for Refusing Requests Assertively 183
- Activity: Passive, Aggressive, or Assertive? 184
- Handout: Assertive Dos and Don'ts of Saying "No" 186
- Weekly Journal 187
Session 16 "That's So Nice of You to Say" 188
- Assertive Strategies for Giving and Receiving Compliments
- Session Objectives 188
- Materials Needed 188
- Before Beginning 188
- Welcome Back 189
- Putting It All Together: Making and Refusing Requests 189
- Giving Compliments 190
- Receiving Compliments 191
- Session Conclusion 192
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 192
- Handout: Dos and Don'ts of Receiving Compliments Assertively 194
- Weekly Journal 196
Session 17 On the Receiving End 197
- Three Steps for Responding Assertively to Anger
- Session Objectives 197
- Materials Needed 197
- Before Beginning 197
- Welcome Back 198
- Putting It All Together: Compliments 198
- Responding to Anger 199
- Plays for Practicing the Skill of Responding to Anger Assertively 200
- Session Conclusion 200
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 201
- Handout: Four Rules for Responding to Anger Assertively 202
- Weekly Journal 204
Part IV Committing to Assertive Anger Expression 205
Session 18 Four-Square Problem-Solving 206
- Finding Win-Win Solutions
- Session Objectives 206
- Materials Needed 206
- Before Beginning 206
- Welcome Back 207
- Four-Square Problem-Solving 207
- Putting It All Together 211
- Session Conclusion 212
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 212
- Handout: Four-Square Problem-Solving 213
- Weekly Journal 214
Session 19 What's the Plan? 215
- Replacing Self-Defeating Patterns and Committing to Assertive Behaviors
- Session Objectives 215
- Materials Needed 215
- Before Beginning 215
- Welcome Back 216
- Icebreaker Activity: Complete the Sentence 217
- Choices in Anger Expression 217
- Step 1 218
- Step 2 218
- Step 3 219
- Step 4 220
- Session Conclusion 221
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 222
- Activity: Complete the Sentence 223
- Handout: My Plan-Replacing Self Defeating Patterns and Committing to Assertive Behaviors 225
- Letter Template: How Is It Going? Replacing Self-Defeating Patterns and Committing to Assertive Behaviors 227
- Weekly Journal 228
Session 20 Putting It All Together 229
- Choosing to Use Assertive Behaviors to Express Anger
- Session Objectives 229
- Materials Needed 229
- Before Beginning 229
- Welcome Back 230
- Icebreaker Activity: Assertive Anger Expression 230
- Group Puzzle 230
- Feedback 231
- Conclusion 231
- Suggestions for Customizing the Curriculum 232
- Handout: Assertive Anger Expression 233
- Handout: Participant Evaluation Form 236
- Handout: Certificate of Completion 237
References 238
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